I feel like 2016 was the year that the body confidence movement really took off. Everywhere I turned last year people were talking about body confidence. I can only hope that trend continues into 2017 and beyond. What’s rarely talked about when it comes to body confidence, however, is sex. We focus all our energy on encouraging people to feel beautiful, but we never encourage people to feel sexy. Probably because the body confidence movement is primarily (or at least should be primarily) centred around fat people. And we all know fat people couldn’t possibly be sexy or desirable, right?! Feeling desirable and sexy is something I personally struggle with a lot. Cute? Sure. Attractive? Of course! But sexy? Never. I think there are many reasons why people – women in particular – might struggle to feel sexy, even if their body confidence is through the roof. For a start, women…

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When I was a kid, I adored magazines. Whether it was Go Girl, Teen Vogue, or the S Club 7 magazine that taught you all the dance moves to all their routines, I read magazines all day every day. Well, I say read. I mainly just did those flow chart quizzes that could see into your soul. As I got older, however, I fell out of love with print magazines. Mainly because once I hit about 14, all the magazines decided I needed to lose weight and place all my self worth in boys. It’s one of the reasons I got so involved in online communities and eventually started my own blog – because none of the traditional media was giving me the kind of content I wanted. Thankfully, all that is starting to change. Many traditional magazines are starting to move away from body shaming and terrible sex tips,…

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In case you don’t follow me on Twitter, I have some news to share. On the 25th December 2016, I got engaged. Yup. That’s right. This Strong Independent Woman is going to be a Strong Independent Wife. Honestly, I am beyond excited to plan my wedding (and, y’know, marry the love of my life too I suppose!). But, contrary to popular belief, I will not be having a feminist wedding. Nope, this gal is going to be sticking to tradition and fully living up to the patriarchy’s expectations. So, without further ado, this is what my Very (Un) Feminist Wedding is going to look like! I will be wearing white Yes, yes, I know. White is a symbol of purity (which I am not) and virginity (which is a made up concept), and by wearing white on my wedding day I’m buying into the myth that not only is the…

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“You’re lucky. You’re a millennial, a modern woman – you can have it all.” At least, that’s what I’ve been told. See, growing up as a middle class white girl, I was always told that I could do anything. Be anything. I could have it all. The perfect husband – probably working in finance. Perfect children – all privately educated with a timetable of activities that would make your head spin. The perfect house – complete with perfectly manicured lawns. And of course, the perfect career – full of power suits and business brunches. If I wanted it, I could have it. I could have it all. Having it all is supposed to be the Ultimate Goal. It’s the Big Feminist Prize – the light at the end of a really dark, patriarchal tunnel. It’s everything a modern woman could ask for. Except, having it all isn’t really having it…

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// Trigger warning for mention of abortion // Everybody’s entitled to their opinion, man. I can say what I want – it’s free speech dude! How many times have you heard that bullshit phrase? If you’re an opinionated woman or minority who spends any time online, I’m willing to bet the answer is ‘a lot’. See, bigots and racists and other unsavoury people like to flaunt their horrific ideals around, and then cry ‘FREE SPEECH’ when someone (usually a woman) tries to criticise them. In fact, there’s a popular belief on the internet that everything – and I mean everything – is up for discussion; that all opinions are good and valuable and should be heard. Nowhere is this line of thinking more apparent than on the internet, where people like to tell you that there’s no such thing as a moral fact – that nothing is simply black or…

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