I’ve never had a hero. When people ask me who my role models and heroes are, I usually mumble something about my mother and Emmeline Pankhurst, but in my head I’m thinking ‘I have no bloody clue.’ See, the thing about role models and heroes is that people think they should encompass everything you want to be in life. Which, when you think about it, is a lot to ask from one person. It’s no wonder that YouTubers and celebrities crumble under the pressure of being someone’s role model. Nobody is perfect, and putting anybody up on a pedestal for being the Ultimate Human is dangerous – for both the hero and the worshiper. That being said, I do think it’s important to have people that inspire and motivate you. So today I thought I’d share with you some of the women who inspire me. On their own, none of…

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On Saturday 21st January, women all around the world marched in protest against Donald Trump’s inauguration, the rise of fascism in the West, and a whole host of other social justice issues. It was a powerful moment, one I’m glad to have witnessed, albeit from Twitter rather than from one of the actual marches. It was, however, not perfect. Following the march, I saw a lot of criticisms for it being trans-exclusionary, inaccessible to disabled people, and generally centred largely around white women. These are valid and extremely important criticisms. However, a lot of women who attended the marches are angry that they’ve been called out for being less than perfect. And you can’t blame them. Earlier this month, I wrote about how to call someone out when they’re being problematic as hell. What I didn’t talk about, however, was what to do if you get called out for being…

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I feel like 2016 was the year that the body confidence movement really took off. Everywhere I turned last year people were talking about body confidence. I can only hope that trend continues into 2017 and beyond. What’s rarely talked about when it comes to body confidence, however, is sex. We focus all our energy on encouraging people to feel beautiful, but we never encourage people to feel sexy. Probably because the body confidence movement is primarily (or at least should be primarily) centred around fat people. And we all know fat people couldn’t possibly be sexy or desirable, right?! Feeling desirable and sexy is something I personally struggle with a lot. Cute? Sure. Attractive? Of course! But sexy? Never. I think there are many reasons why people – women in particular – might struggle to feel sexy, even if their body confidence is through the roof. For a start, women…

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When I was a kid, I adored magazines. Whether it was Go Girl, Teen Vogue, or the S Club 7 magazine that taught you all the dance moves to all their routines, I read magazines all day every day. Well, I say read. I mainly just did those flow chart quizzes that could see into your soul. As I got older, however, I fell out of love with print magazines. Mainly because once I hit about 14, all the magazines decided I needed to lose weight and place all my self worth in boys. It’s one of the reasons I got so involved in online communities and eventually started my own blog – because none of the traditional media was giving me the kind of content I wanted. Thankfully, all that is starting to change. Many traditional magazines are starting to move away from body shaming and terrible sex tips,…

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In case you don’t follow me on Twitter, I have some news to share. On the 25th December 2016, I got engaged. Yup. That’s right. This Strong Independent Woman is going to be a Strong Independent Wife. Honestly, I am beyond excited to plan my wedding (and, y’know, marry the love of my life too I suppose!). But, contrary to popular belief, I will not be having a feminist wedding. Nope, this gal is going to be sticking to tradition and fully living up to the patriarchy’s expectations. So, without further ado, this is what my Very (Un) Feminist Wedding is going to look like! I will be wearing white Yes, yes, I know. White is a symbol of purity (which I am not) and virginity (which is a made up concept), and by wearing white on my wedding day I’m buying into the myth that not only is the…

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